• Encourage your child to keep all meetings with the mentor, and have your child contact the mentor or program staff if they can’t make an appointment.

  • Be positive about the relationship, and let your child see you are happy that they have a mentor in their life.

  • Remind your child to thank their mentor and show appreciation for the time they spend together.

  • Ask open‐ended questions about how things are going. For example, “What was the best thing you did with your mentor today?” can yield more results than “Did you have a good time with your mentor today?”

  • Listen to your child and be supportive of their feelings. Be patient and encouraging.

  • Tell your child when you notice positive changes as a result of having a mentor. Your praise means a lot!

  • Be sure to communicate with your child's mentor about your their time with your child. If possible, keep a weekly meeting time and day.

  • Remember that the mentor is there for your child, not for you or other children in your family. Don’t ask the mentor to take other siblings along on outings or to become your friend or counselor.

  • Let the mentor know about any important rules, food limitations, or times that your child is usually unavailable. If possible, give the mentor a calendar of your child’s other activities.

  • Don’t withhold meetings with the mentor as punishment. Remember that you and the mentor are a team. If your child is being “grounded,” work out a plan to ensure that the mentor can continue to see your child.

  • Let the mentor know when you have a change of address, phone, or other contact information, or if there is a significant change in your lives that may affect the relationship, such as moving away from the area or a loss in your family.

  • Show the mentor your appreciation! Write a thank‐you note now and then, or share improvements you’ve noticed in your child’s behavior.

  • If you have a concern you want to share with the mentor, do it when your child is not present to avoid the child’s being embarrassed or uncomfortable.

  • Complete and turn in any needed paperwork in a timely manner.

  • Tell them anything you think they should know about your child that may not be covered in the application.

  • Help program staff members conduct regular check‐ins by returning phone calls quickly and taking some time to talk about how your child is doing. This is your chance to let staff know if you have a concern, or if things are going really well.

  • Let program staff members know right away about any changes in your contact information or other changes that may affect the mentoring relationship, such as moving away from the area or a loss in your family.

  • Attend parent orientation, meetings, and annual celebrations if available. Programs appreciate your interest and involvement, and so will your child!

RESOURCE: The above tips can be found in the Parent's Guide to Mentoring.

  • Assist your child in communicating with their big buddy to set up a weekly time to meet.

  • Provide transportation to and from the college at the scheduled times

  • Notify the mentor if your child is unable to attend their meeting time

  • This is a special time for your child to have a friend all to themselves. Please do not have additional children (friends or siblings) at these meetings.

  • Notify Executive Director of any concerns, questions or if your child is not meeting on a regular basis or if your child no longer wishes to continue with their mentor.

  • Notify mentor and Executive Director if any contact information changes. Be sure it's always current!

  • Be accountable and stay in touch, it's important to your child.

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